All I knew this morning when I woke is I know something now, know something now I didn’t before. -Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran, “Everything has Changed”
A couple of weeks ago, I met with my friend at a local wine bar. We sat on stools at a high table facing a window overlooking the city streets of parked cars, bustling people, and twinkling lights strewn on trees. As we were exchanging stories of recent woes and trials of life, she said something to me that really broke through my sorrow and allowed me to see a silver lining to some bad situations.
She told me that even when there doesn’t seem to be anything good about a situation, at least the trials allow a person to know who is really there for them. That is so true! Have you ever gone through an awful situation and had people in your life go out of their way to love and support you through it? Or maybe, at the same time, you also realized who is not there for you when you need them. If no other silver linings exist, at least you know who you can depend on in tough times. That has helped me get through some things recently. At least I know the loved ones who are there for me in bad times, as well as good. And even if I already knew who those people are, it’s nice to have the reminder again during another hard time in life.
The most minor of my trials of late has been physical illness. I got the flu for the first time in my life, and it was miserable. I was quarantined in my apartment and transitioned through all kinds of stages of illness – fever, chills, headache, stomach ache, weakness, coughing, etcetera. My husband nursed me back to health; he seriously was a rockstar, and I knew he would be. I didn’t doubt for one second that he would be there for me no matter what happens in life. And I also was surprised by some people who reached out to me to make sure I was doing ok. Even though there was nothing nice about being sick and wasting a week of my life, at least I had my husband’s unconditional love and found out some new people in my life truly care about my well-being. In the words of some of my favorite collaborators, Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran, “… I know something now, know something now I didn’t before.”
As even harder trials come in life, it is good to know who you can call on to come support you again. You can continue to build stronger relationships with your community by trusting them and letting them share in your sorrow. As we sipped on our wine, it was so nice to just have a friend listen to me. Sometimes, all you need is to have someone there to help share life’s burdens.
Even when there is nothing good about a situation, there can be good in counting on relationships, building new ones, and knowing something now you didn’t before.